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Nobody's perfect. Patience is accepting the imperfections of the other. Not everyone is like you; so when they don't' measure up to your standards, give them the freedom to be different.
How can you know if she's "THE ONE"? First and foremost, ask yourself if your hearts beat together spiritually. If you're not in harmony is this area, you might want to reconsider moving forward in your relationship.
How can you tell if you're in a toxic workplace? If you feel drained emotionally and physically every time you go to work, you're place of employment is most likely toxic.